“We always have a choice about the contents and quality of our character.” – Epictetus
External things are going to affect us everyday. People will be rude to us. Alarm clocks will fail to wake us. Coffee shops will be out of our favorite flavors. People will cut us in line. Our hard work will go unappreciated.
Or the opposite of those things will happen. People will think we’re the best ever. Our coffee will be free. We will wake up before the alarm ready to go. Everyone will be nice to us.
Neither situation is a good example of reality. Reality is typically a mixture of everything. Reality is a spectrum.
What matters is not what happens to us and how it affects us. What matters is how we choose to utilize the things that happen to us. How we make the most of our experiences. The only thing we control is how we choose to see the world and how we put into the use the lessons we choose to learn from our experiences.
A person could attend an Ivy League school for four years, skate through, party constantly, graduate with a 2.5 GPA, and never have held a job. Another person could attend a community college, live at home, struggle to earn a 2.5 GPA, and hold down a full time job. Which of these people is in the best position to continue a fulfilling life?
The truth is, it depends. It depends on which one is choosing to make the best of the experience they’ve had.
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