“As a wolf resembles a dog, so does a flatterer, and an adulterer, and a parasite resemble a friend. Take care then that instead of watch-dogs you do not without knowing it let in mischievous wolves.” – Epictetus
There is a quote often attributed to Jim Rohn that says, “You are the average of the five people you associate with most. Let’s take a minute and think about the people we associate with the most, they are probably people we work with, we see the people we work with every single day during the work week.
When we have an idea of the people we spend the most time with at work, the next question we should ask ourselves is, “Do I exhibit the principles that I want to live by when I am with the people I spend the most time with at work?” If the answer to that question is yes, and we are being honest with ourselves about what our principles are and how we are actually acting, then we are in the right group of people.
If instead we find that we are complaining about things we can control, gossiping, or avoiding productive work with the people we spend the most time with at work, well we need to be ready for some changes. We don’t need to make any changes just yet. Who knows? Maybe when we start to get a handle on the things we do control, our closest associates will see the difference it makes in our lives and follow suit. Maybe not.
If they do not, we need to be ready for the reality that they will not want to spend time with us as we learn to master the things within our control and ignore the things outside our control.
Virtus Fortis Vocat