“A person who is dissatisfied with things present and what is given by fortune is ignorant in life, but one who bears these things nobly and rationally and the things which proceed from them is worth of being considered good.” – Epictetus
Life will come at us fast and there is little we can do about that. We can prepare as best a person can and still be caught unawares by the twists and turns life has in store for us. At those moments, those times when life has surprised us yet again, that is when we get the opportunity to see who we really are.
How do we respond to these unexpected tastes of fate? If we find ourselves getting down, blaming others, or generally being pessimistic then we can reason that we are not sticking to the aspects of the issue we have control over. We are setting ourselves up for further disappointment, frustration, and unnecessary suffering.
If instead, we accept that this is the new reality, reflect on what we could have done differently to avoid the situation, and then finding a sensible plan to deal with the situation or use it to our advantage we are taking what life has to offer and making the most of it. We are setting ourselves up to do better in the long run and see more opportunities
How we deal with life, the way we view and address the problems and blessings that life brings to us directly plays into our contentment and sets us up for future opportunities or hardships.
In the words of Jon Kabat-Zinn, “You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.”
Let’s all learn to surf.
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