“For it is not childhood which stays with us but something worse – childishness. And this condition is all the more serious because we possess the authority of old age, together with the follies of childhood.” – Seneca
Maturity, self development, growth, these things do not just happen to us.
Yes, life is going to provide hardships whether we want to deal with them or not but our default setting is not necessarily one where we make the most of each situation that life puts us in. No, instead we will find ways to avoid the uncomfortable part of life’s hardships and if the hardship was a result of our own doing – they often are – we will naturally find an excuse and make ourselves the victims.
If instead we stop and ask ourselves about the role we have played in our own hardships and how we can learn from these things after we have fully experienced the sting of failure we give ourselves the opportunity to grow and move past this.
Otherwise, we run the risk of reaching adulthood, having all of the responsibility that comes with that including the responsibility for other people’s lives in some cases and trying to handle those responsibilities with essentially the same operating system we used to navigate the playground in grade school.
And that would hold us back.
virtus fortis vocat