“Withdraw into yourself, as far as you can. Associate with those who will make a better man of you.” – Seneca
Our friends should be a source of encouragement for us, they should give us something to aspire towards, they should hold us accountable. And we should do the same for them.
We should be choosing the people we call friends, especially the ones we spend the most time with based on what they make us want to do. Do they make us want to be better people? Then they are our friends. Do we only see them in situations that distract us from the path we have chosen? We probably want to keep some distance. Not that we can’t associate with those people but we have to remember that they are a distraction and can not be relied upon when we are struggling with our weaknesses. Our friends on the other hand, are exactly who we reach to when we are feeling weak. They will help us up.
Sometimes we need to rely on ourselves. Sometimes we need to reach deep within and find the strength to avoid temptation, to stave off weakness, and to hold our standard. This does not come naturally to us. It is something we have to practice and get better at. It is a skill that depends on reflection, learning, planning, and executing the plan without deviation while at the same time being open to changing the plan if it isn’t working. It is something we can practice everyday.
And we should.
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