“Happy is the man who can make others better, not merely when he is in their company, but even when he is in their thoughts.” – Seneca
We don’t actually get to control what people think of us. We don’t get to control how they see our actions or how they hear the things we say. We have zero control over the things they say about us when we are not around.
We do get to control how we act and how we speak and that should be our only focus. We can share with people what we meant, our actual intentions, and how we would like to be perceived until we are blue in the face but if our actions don’t match our words, people will know. People see through fake people.
But if we keep our actions inline with the type of person we want to be, eventually, our actions and the words we speak will help shape the way we impact people’s lives. It takes time, this is especially true if we have been known to be a bit full of the fertilizer in the past. It just takes time. Time and effort.
But when we start to get that feedback. When we start to see that we have a positive impact on people, one that is lasting, it takes hold and we will want nothing more than to continue to make people’s lives a little richer just by being a part of it.
And most importantly, we will do it by being the people we want to be.
Our best selves.
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