“For speech making at the bar, or any other pursuit which claims the people’s attention, makes for us enemies; but philosophy is peaceful and minds her own business.” – Seneca
No matter what we do in life, if we have to interact with the public, especially in a professional manner we are going to have people who don’t like us. We may very well have the other person’s best interests in mind one hundred percent of the time and still, some people are not going to like us. Some people may even just plain hate us. And there’s nothing we can do about that, it’s not part of the equation we can control.
Sure, we can do our best to control our emotions, our reactions, and to put others first all the time, but that doesn’t mean that we are going to get that across to everyone. We just can’t control everything.
But if we build ourselves a mental retreat from all of it. A place to go when we can start to feel ourselves becoming overwhelmed by the pressures of ‘performing’ for the crowds in our professional lives, we can have a place to reset ourselves mentally.
All this place requires is detachment, the ability to remove ourselves from our situation and look at ourselves and the situation we find ourselves in objectively. And that takes practice.
The good news is, we can practice everyday.
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