“If we are willing to examine critically the various causes of our fear, we shall find that some exist, and others only seem to be.” – Seneca
There are things that should keep us from doing things, we should not try to overcome obstacles that actually pose a threat to out health and well being without proper training and most importantly, a very good reason for taking these obstacles on.
But most of the time, the things that hold us back, the things that keep us from completing the tasks we have on our bucket list are not real fears. They are fears like the fear of rejection, the fear of failure, and the fear f the unknown keep us firmly on our current path.
But in order to become our best selves we are going to have to sort out the fears that matter and should be listened to and the ones that don;t matter and are better ignored.
Two thought exercises may help make that distinction for us, the first is simple. If we play out as many variations of the scenario as possible, what are the negative realistic outcomes? If none of them are a threat to our health and well being, we should ignore them.
The other thought exercise requires more, well, thought. If we were going to explain a situation we find ourselves to a friend or our future selves, would the story be one of regret of opportunity lost or one of relief for not having experienced an unnecessary hardship?
We all know which story we would rather tell.
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